I’d Rather be the Father

by Faith Shearin

Right from the start, it's easier to be the father: no morning
nausea, no stretch marks. You can wait outside the


delivery room and keep your clothes on. Notice how
closely the word mother resembles smother, notice


how she is either too strict or too lenient: wrong for giving up
everything or not enough. Psychology books blame her


for whatever is the matter with all of us while the father
slips into the next room for a beer. I wanted to be


the rational one, the one who told a joke at dinner.
If I were her father we would throw a ball across


the lawn while the grill fills with smoke. But who
wants to be the mother? Who wants to tell her what


to wear and deliver her to the beauty shop and explain
bras and tampons? Who wants to show her what


a woman still is? I am supposed to teach her how to
wash the dishes and do the laundry only I don't want


her to grow up and be like me. I'd rather be the father
who tells her she is loved; I'd rather take her fishing


and teach her to skip stones across the lake of history;
I'd rather show her how far she can spit.